Compared to married persons, who live with their husbands or wives under one roof, keeping a home safe is more difficult to those who are single parents. Aside from being alone in taking care of everything inside the house, single parenting is also more prone to crimes because they don’t have husbands or wives to protect them in their own homes.
More than men, single moms are prone with thief or burglary and rape or sexual abuse. Single moms are more prone to crimes such as sexual abuses and even rape because they are all alone in their homes most of the time. Single dads might also be victims of losing their property inside their houses because thieves think that they are always out for work.
For single parents to keep their kids, homes and lives safe, they should:
- always check their doors and windows. To avoid theft when you’re away, make sure that all of your windows and doors have locks. You also have to check these locks once in a while to ensure that they are all working and functioning properly. Before leaving the house, always double check if all the windows are securely fastened and the doors are all locked. This will ensure that burglars cannot enter easily because all the possible entry points are bolted and locked. If you have sliding glass doors, always keep a piece of plywood or a rod made of metal in the track while you install vertical bolts. The metal rod or plywood as well as the vertical bolts will make forcible entry in your home.
- ensure that the lights are on. If you leave the house—especially at night—it is advisable to keep the lights on. This will create the false impression that you or somebody else is at home. Aside from the lights, you can also leave your television set and radio on. Just make sure that they all have timers and they are set at specific time of your arrival. Setting the timer of these appliances will also ensure that they will not cause fire if they are left turned on for a long period of time.
- ask your neighbor to use your parking space while you are away. By having your parking space occupied by your neighbor, potential burglars will hesitate to enter your house and steal your properties because they know that you are present.
- trim shrubs that are too tall. Shrubs that keep in the way such as entrances or walkways will make it hard for you to escape when an offender gets into your house.
- join in a community watch program in your neighborhood. One of the burdens of single parenting is that your safety even at home is at stake since you are all alone with your kid. Although it’s worrisome, you can overcome this fear by joining a community watch program in your area because the people in this group can help you once a burglar or an offender attacks you and your home.
A tender 2 pounds and 6oz little boy born on February 11. 2004 3 months earlier. I named him Tyler Isaiah Miller and he was and still is my angel. He truly saved my life in every way. I was wild and had no respect for others let along myself and even with me being pregnant I was unemotional detached. There wasn’t a motherly bone in my body but yet there I was giving birth to my son.
Surprisingly it was love at first sight and a feeling I cant put into words. But in that moment I was holding a piece of heaven in my arms. He fought for one month and a day, to me it seemed so much longer. Going back and forth to see him an hour away at the hospital and crying every time I had to leave him there.
He passed away in my arms there is nothing more painful. I never got to bring him home because his home was not with me it was with God and I accepted that. I was able to enjoy the greatest gift and that was giving birth to my angel. Tyler I love you Happy 8th Birthday. Thank you for preparing me to be the Mom I am to your sister and a better daughter,aunt and sister.
Over the weekend I took a pledge to live my life without resistant. I let my fears go and started my Live In the Moment Movement.
I made a list of different things that I would normally say heck no to or just wouldn’t think about doing. I know for a fact that great things happen when you stop over thinking and step out your comfortable little safe haven.
I recommend that you make a list and just do at least two things a day or even a week off that list. Challenge yourself to do what you never thought you would do. Here are a few things off my list:
1. Celebrate being single while I’m single
2. Take advantage of every opportunity
3. Remember what it was like to be naive and innocent
4.Sit under a tree and enjoy the fresh air.
5. Sit somewhere with my sisters with a great view and a damn good bottle of wine
6. Spend a weekend away from my computer
My how time flies, each and everyday I watch her and think back to the times when she was a little baby. She is a huge reason why I refuse to be a Statistics, or just another single parent. I strive to be more than a parent I want to be a positive role model, a template that she can look at but not follow because I want her to be more than I ever dreamed to be. As a parent I want more for her and I want her to have the special moments to look back on and inspire her to aim high.
Is your dream worth thirty minutes of your time? You may feel that you cant squeeze thirty minutes out of your day well think again. How long do you spend in the shower or shaving. How long is the prep for dinner? Use snatches of time here and there if you cant find a block of thirty minutes. My Point is that you should work on lifting that dream out of the wish state and manifest it into your life as soon as you can. Mold your dream to your will, intent, and action and then give yourself a pat on the back for taking the steps and drawing your dreams into physical reality.
Being a Single Parent means explaining to your kids that your family my be broken but your home isn’t
It’s 1:14 am and I know that I am tired and sick and tired of just being sick and tired. I’ve known for some time now that you are exactly what I thought you were. Not the man for me and incapable if even being a friend. I’m no dummy and I’m destined to be a man that values me inside and out. As a woman that has so much heart I do give people the benefit of doubt. Give a inch and the greedy will sneak a mile from you. You know we’re in control of the way others treat us. We either allow it or not. I value every moment in my life good or bad. I’m a “Life Long Learner” it doesn’t make it any easier but I know it gets better.
Being a mom it’s my duty to protect my child, point break period. I love my daughter and when I see or hear about a child being abused or killed by the hands of their parents I hold her a little closer at night. When I see the news that a man or woman has sexually abused a child I make it a point to let my daughter know that no one should touch her private parts.
This day and age a child cannot afford to be sheltered from that fact that the world has mentally sick people in it and they will hurt them. I’ve never witness abuse before but I had a friend that has and this is her story. What would you have done in this situation.
- Child abuse: stop the silence (tolmema.wordpress.com)